Meet Suitor — A quiet dating coach. On your phone. Off the cloud

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Suitor

A quiet dating coach. On your phone. Off the cloud.

Every feature, from the first launch.

No account, no login, no cloud. Everything runs on your device and works fully offline — nothing in this post is hidden behind a wall.

What Suitor does

Suitor is a quiet, private coach for the side of dating apps that no one helps you with: the photo you should lead with, the bio you should write, the first message you should send, and the date you should actually prepare for.

What's in v1:

— Photo Grader. Drop in up to 9 candidate photos from your camera roll. Suitor uses on-device Vision (face detection, brightness, blur, saliency) plus a hand-tuned heuristic stack to score each on five axes: clarity, expression, framing, color contrast, and "only-you-in-the-shot." You get an ordered shortlist and the reason for each rank. Photos never leave your phone. — Bio Studio. Eight bio templates (warm, dry, niche-interest, career-led, faith-led, traveler, recovery-aware, single-parent), with editable blanks. Plus a "writing rules" page with the patterns that recur in research-backed top-quartile bios (specificity, no negations, 1 strong opener, 1 invitation). — Date Prep. Before each date, log: where, what time, what they like, three first-question prompts, three things you'd rather not bring up first. Suitor surfaces these in a checklist 4 hours before the meeting time. — Reply Helper. Paste a recent message thread (text), get a short "what's actually happening here" reading + three reply options of escalating warmth. All on-device. — Aftercare. A 24-hour reflection prompt the morning after a date: what surprised you, what would you do again, what would you change.

What Suitor is not: a chatbot that pretends to be your date. A photo retoucher. A swipe automator. A profile-builder that uploads anywhere.

Free. Optional Suitor Plus unlock ($9.99 one-time) adds the specialty bio packs, the full Date-Prep history, and the Reply Helper's three-option export.

A look inside

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What's inside

Photo Grader — On-device Vision grading + ordered shortlist with reasons.
Bio Studio — 8 hand-written bio templates, fill-in-the-blank, plus writing rules.
Date Prep — Pre-date checklist surfaced 4 hours before the meeting.
Reply Helper — Paste thread → reading + 3 reply options.
Aftercare — Morning-after reflection prompt.

Why we built it

Match Group's stock is -75% from peak. Pew 2024: dating-app dissatisfaction at all-time highs. The frustration has 4 layers: bad photos (people pick the wrong shot), bad bios (boring or unflattering), dead-end conversations (no first-message technique), badly prepared first dates (no rehearsal). AI can address every l…

What makes it different

Suitor is the only iOS dating coach where every operation runs on-device. Photo grading uses Apple Vision (no upload). Bio templates ship in the bundle (no API call). Reply Helper runs on-device LLM-free heuristics (pattern + tone analysis). Compared to RizzAgent (real-time earbud coach, cloud-based) and YourMove.ai (…

Who it's for

Hobbyists who want a tool that respects their time, their gear, and their offline life.

In one line: A quiet dating coach. On your phone. Off the cloud.

Try it

See the Suitor app page for the full feature list, the info table, and support links.

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